Thursday, March 17, 2011

The Pronoun Game

Westley seems fully convinced that the baby is a girl:
"When the baby comes, I will tell her all about robots."

"Mommy, I will show the baby this puzzle and she will say, 'Wow!'"

"Is the tea going into the baby's body? I hope she likes peppermint!"
I have no idea where this came from. I've been avoiding gender-specific pronouns since we first told Westley that "there's a baby growing inside Mommy." Once in a while, I'll offer up an "it" or "its," but I usually default to simply "the baby." And unlike the first time around, I have absolutely no clue as to the sex of the person currently sharing my body.

With Westley, I was certain I was pregnant with a boy from about 10 weeks on. It sounds kind of mystic-crystal-revelations, but I felt that the baby had an undeniable "little male" energy. It was almost as if he was saying, "Hi, Mommy! I'm a boy!" This time? Not so much as a peep. As I contemplated the double pink lines on my pregnancy test, I flashed on the idea of having another baby boy. But it was mostly a wondering (and a little worrying). With Westley, I knew.

This time, my kid is the one who seems to know. I'd really like to ask Westley why he keeps using female pronouns when talking about the baby. I'd do it if I thought he'd understand what I was asking him. But I also know that Westley randomly assigns a sex - usually female - to things in his world. He maintains that Gromit of Wallace and Gromit, Oscar the Grouch's pet worm Slimey, and, most recently, the monkey Steve in the movie Cloudy with a Chance of Meatballs are all girls.

So maybe this has nothing to do with the baby whatsoever, and Westley just likes girls. I'm understand that's fairly common among boys.

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Edited: Last night when I used "she" to refer to the baby - to avoid sentence clunkiness - Westley looked at me like my hair had just turned purple.

"Is the baby a girl?" he asked, the excitement bubbling up.

"I don't know," I told him. "Maybe."



Cindy said...

Luna gives everything a "he." And, I mean everything. Leaves, markers, socks, you name it. Oh wait....I do that too! Are you going to find out the sex this time around or is it going to be a surprise like with Westley?

Baby in Broad said...

I'm leaning towards finding out the sex, and I know Rob can't stand the suspense! I think it might make things easier (and more real) for Westley if we can start talking about his brother or sister as soon as possible.

Cindy said...



We went the surprise route with Soleil and it was the BEST BEST BEST surprise ever. But really, how could it not be totally magically no matter when you find out? I am fairly certain if we get to have another that we'd bite our nails the whole way through and choose suspense again. I figure there just aren't enough AMAZING surprises in life, this takes the cake. Though I totally wonder what it would be like to know while pregnant and bond that much further with your little babe.

If you find out will you announce it here? Will you share names befor birth?