Friday, February 11, 2011

Epiblogue: Preschool-Shop 'til You Drop

I have decided to put preschool shopping on the back burner for now. I'm dropping it before I drop.

After contacting a local co-op preschool that works for our budget (though perhaps not for our timeline) and not hearing back, I had a cartoon-lightbulb-over-head realization:

If we can't afford preschool, we can't afford preschool.

It's really very simple. And there's not a reason to worry about it. There are plenty of things that I'd like for my family, my child, myself...but that are out of our price range. There is absolutely zero point in worrying about where I'll find money in the budget when there isn't anything to find!

The more important realization came later, when I'd come to terms with the budget numbers and heaved more than a few sighs of disappointment. It occurred to me that the preschool hunt had been making me anxious to the point of not being a very nice person. And my kid - who was supposed to be benefitting from all of this - was picking up on it like crazy. The more anxious I got, the more anxiety Westley seemed to exhibit.

I have some wonderful memories of my own preschool experience, and I'd still like some sort of (gently) structured pre-school environment for Westley (because I think he'd love it after he got over his distaste for "uh-ver chirren.") But I'm not willing to continue to create a bunch of unnecessary stress for myself and (especially!) him over it.



candace said...

I would just like to say that you should search for local neighborhood moms or dads preschools. My daughter goes to a school that is freaking fantastic and it is run by a local arty mom. It is way laid back and way part time. I don't plan on putting my lovelies into full time anything until I have to. I find that these local drop in programs can give you a break and them a awesome time without breaking your bank or stressing you out. Seattle has to have things like this. I found my through a local yahoo group and I LOVE IT!

Good luck and sorry for the drunkin' comment!

Elizabeth @ My Life, Such as it is... said...

We used a local church's MDO (Mother's Day Out) program that was affordable for us compared to most preschools. Generally MDO's are only 4-5 hours and usually you can choose 2, 3 or 5 days a week which helps keep the cost low.

Keeping your child home is perfectly fine too. There are always playgroups you can look for if you want more structured social times. Plenty of kids go to kindergarten without going to preschool.

We did it because I was working part time & the speech therapist recommended it to help Charlie's language development.