My husband is as opinioned as the next guy, but he's also incredibly diplomatic. In the interest of avoiding conflict, he usually keeps his opinions to himself. Which is sometimes great, and sometimes a huge pain in the ass. Like when, you know, I actually want to know his thoughts about something in particular, and he's all, "I don't care."
Oh, you so care, you big lying liar-head!
One of the hardest things to get him to express opinions about is parenting. I have heaps of ideas about things that I WILL and WILL NOT do as a mother (all of which will, undoubtedly, come back to bite me in the ass more than a few times), and I have slowly been bringing up the more important ones, trying to spark some conversation on the topic. This usually gets me a response of "Mmm-hmm," or something similar. As for Rob's ideas about fatherhood? Almost completely unexpressed, as of yet.
Recently, I tried a slightly different approach to get him to open up about some of his visions for his future, parenting self:
Me: Is there anything you can see yourself doing as a parent? You know, like things your mother always did, or your father always did when you were growing up?
Rob [after thinking for a minute]: Well, my dad always peed with the bathroom door open. I'm not gonna do that.
Ahh. Now we're getting somewhere.
BiB
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2 comments:
Well, yes, there are days where parenting is one long exercise in never saying never.
And chances are you're thinking about how to parent basically 24/7 because you are the one who's living with and feeling this baby. It's all still a bit abstract to your husband, I'd bet.
But still, I'd also bet he's thinking about parenting more than he's letting on. It's just hard to discuss abstract concepts,ya know?
But he's definitely well-prepared to start the potty-training deal given this conversation, so that's a start ;-)
oh geeze. Is he like my husband on the name front too? Cause if so, i'm VERY sorry
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